how to STOP masturbation once and for all !?!?!

a question thats practically IMPOSSIBLE if Í think about it. but I mean this serious for everyone here.

how to STOP masturbating once and for all !?!?!
its got many sife effects and blablabla.

but really, masturbation has ruined my possible-sex-life ever since my teens, instead of accepting girls aroundme who were interested and discovering real pleasure with a woman, I RAN AWAY like an coward. and felt shy or ashamed, had no confidence and lots of more.

but really, discovering so many wonderful hacks like meditation or 5 Tibetan Rites or Rebounding, or healthy foods and oil.
I really really would like to try to STOP masturbating once and for all. I even read women can see something special on ur face going on. it attracts them.

anyways

are there any REAL methods that can help u STOP doing this solo-sex addiction ?!?!? I hope I can or will stop.
my longest record was5 or 6 weeks, after that I had to EXPLODE. could not wait longer.

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  • DManDMan Master of Arts ✭✭✭

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  • I think a better thing to focus on, is how to stop being hard on yourself. Seriously.

    My general advice --- with the caveat that I don't what know country or culture you are from, and if dating is different there from the US / the West --- is:

    1) Work on having a good life in general, and a social life. Having friends, talking with people. Having interests that you enjoy -- ones that you can connect socially with other people doing. Not solo interests like gaming, using the Internet, etc., but rather social interests like playing basketball, doing volunteer work, anything that people do together. Having a full and enjoyable life attracts people.

    2) Have friendships with women. If you can't be friends with a woman, you definitely can't have a relationship or a girlfriend. Just learn to relate to women as people, and enjoy hanging out with them. It will be less intimidating to you. It's good to have some women friends who you aren't even trying to get with, and be able to ask them for advice on fashion, dating, etc.

    3) Once you have a generally good, happy, full life, put more effort into asking women out, maybe having a profile on a dating site or whatever. Because your life is already full and happy, you aren't going to come across as desperate. Because you are comfortable hanging out and talking with women as friends, you aren't going to come across as creepy.

    4) It's okay to play with yourself. Seriously. Most dudes do it. It's better to do it without being ashamed of yourself. You have something in common with 95%+ of men -- today and throughout history. You're more weird (unusual) if you don't than if you do. But I would recommend not using p ornogra phy because it could warp a person's perception of sex and women. You want to relate to women as people first and foremost, not as potential sex objects. [Women, being people, like sex. Most of them. It isn't that difficult once you can relate to women and connect with them.]

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    Dear EndAllDisease: Read Tycho's Nose post again, and again, and then implement, especially the part about being so unkind and hard on yourself. He (I'm assuming Tycho's Nose is a guy) has nailed it in every way. Eloquent, pragmatic, real, accurate. vsp (girl)

  • I dont understand DMans photo there and I really dont care. but thanx for Tychos post! I already try to do such things, and also read books about dating and woman and life in general.

  • DManDMan Master of Arts ✭✭✭

    @EndAllDisease said:
    I dont understand DMans photo there and I really dont care. but thanx for Tychos post! I already try to do such things, and also read books about dating and woman and life in general.

    Awwww sounds very grumpy. I think it is obvious, no?

    castration = lower sex drive

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  • Masturbating once a week in the shower isn't going to have any negative effects on your sex life.
    The problem people run into is masturbating too frequently, or watching porn.

    What has helped me defend myself against this issue is knowing the science.
    Check out this TED talk

    It's still a struggle but getting easier.

    Like a poster above said, don't be too hard on yourself - you will slip up as you learn to control this part of your brain.

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